This is one of my favorite quotes by Pema Chodron -- "To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest."
What do I love about this quote? I think it speaks to the fact that life is inherently scary. It speaks to our very human desire to stay in a safe place, protected. And it speaks to our need to confront reality to be truly alive. In my work with patients, we often tackle these issues. People with BPD have every reason to seek security -- many have been deprived of security in their childhood, or, because of the nature of their symptoms, feel insecure even when they are in a safe place. But, by seeking security all the time, they can miss out on life's big opportunities; the chance to try something new, to fall in love, to pursue their goals.
Of course, this doesn't just apply to people with BPD. We all sometimes choose the comfort of security over the endless possibilities of living. Do you do this too often though? Are you limiting your life in favor of feeling protected?