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I Hate You - Don't Leave Me

About.com Rating 4.5 Star Rating

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Updated: June 13, 2007

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The Bottom Line

A book written to educate friends and family of those with BPD and assist them in improving their relationships, while being heard.

Pros
  • Author understands BPD
  • Writes to the friends and family members
  • Gives specific suggestions to promotes relationships
Cons
  • Medication and treatment specifics are dated

Description

  • Authors: Jerold J. Kreisman, MD & Hal Straus
  • Publisher: Avon Books
  • ISBN: 0-380-71305-5

Guide Review - I Hate You - Don't Leave Me

The authors start by providing a glimpse into the mind of the person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The book addresses the appearance of the symptoms of BPD, from the perspective of the both the person with BPD and those who care about her. It then gives the reader specific information about treatment (medications and treatment modalities have changed since publication date), coping and communication. Short fascinating anecdotes are incorporated throughout to further illustrate the points.

The authors introduce the communication tool SET (support, empathy, truth). A description and examples of SET in practice are provided, which can assist readers in incorporating this into their regular communication with a BP.

I Hate You - Don't Leave Me, is a great starting point for those who want to better understand BPD. It was one of the first books written for the lay person. As a result, it assumes a very low existing baseline of knowledge, without patronizing the reader.

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