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Resources for the Borderline Personality Family


Updated December 02, 2008

It can be hard to find borderline personality family resources. Sometimes it seems like there is help available for the person with borderline personality disorder (BPD), but not for his or her loved ones. Fortunately, there is a growing appreciation for the need of BPD families to have their own sources of information, treatment, and support. Below, find a comprehensive list of borderline personality family resources you can access to learn about and better cope with BPD and its effects on your family as a whole.

Books for the Borderline Personality Family

If you've just learned that a loved one has BPD, the first step is to educate yourself about how borderline personality can affect the family.

A number of excellent books have been written to address the needs of people from BPD families. Many of these books are helpful whether you are the parent, sibling, or child of a person with BPD.

  • Aguirre, B. A. (2007). Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents: A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent Has BPD. Fair Winds Press.
  • Kreger, R. (2008). The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells. Hazelden.
  • Mason, P. T., & Kreger, R. (1998). Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger Publications.
  • Roth, K., & Friedman, F. B. (2003). Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem. New Harbinger Publications.

Treatment for the Borderline Personality Family

Sometimes BPD family members need more than information. You may find that you benefit from classes, workshops, or psychological treatment to help you cope with the BPD symptoms of your loved one. There are treatments available specifically for BPD family members.

For example, the National Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEA-BPD) offers the Family Connections Program throughout the United States. This program is a 12-week class designed to offer education, skills training, and support to family members of people with BPD. To learn more about the program, visit the Family Connections page of the NEA-BPD website.

There are also therapists who specialize in helping families understand and adapt to a family member with mental illness. While there are many types of therapists who can work in this role, couples or family therapists may have the most experience in dealing with borderline personality families. This guide to finding a therapist may help you in your search.

Support for the Borderline Personality Family

The Internet is a great source of support for the borderline personality family. From message boards to listservs to public blogs, there are plenty of places to find others who are going through the same experiences.

One great source of support is the About.com BPD Forum right here on this site. The forum includes both people with BPD and their families. (In fact, you will notice that there is a special section just for friends and family.)

Another great site is Facing the Facts, which includes information and discussion boards for partners and family members of someone with BPD.

Other Internet Resources for the Borderline Personality Family

There are a variety of other online resources for people in BPD families. Below is a list of some of the most popular sites for families of people with BPD:

  • Family Validation – resources and information for participants in the Family Connections program

  • Borderline Personality Research – up-to-date information on available clinical studies of borderline personality disorder

  • Borderline Personality Disorder Resource Center – resources on BPD maintained by New York–Presbyterian Hospital

  • National Alliance on Mental Illness – information and support groups for people with BPD and their loved ones

  • Sources:

    Giffin J. Family Experience of Borderline Personality Disorder. Australian and New Zealand Journal of Family Therapy. 29:133-138, 2008.

    Mason PT, Kreger R. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger Publications, 1998.

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