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Life With Borderline Personality Disorder

While BPD can affect many areas of your life, your legal status and physical health, many people with BPD lead normal and fulfilling lives. Learn how BPD might impact you, and how you can improve your quality of life.

Venting
The idea that venting or letting off steam can help you manage your anger is not a new one -- for many decades mental health professionals thought that this type of venting was essential to anger management. But new research is suggesting that venting may not actually work, and in fact could cause more harm than good.

Healthy Anger Management - Secrets for Healthy Anger Management
Many people do things that they regret when they are angry, but some have learned to manage anger in healthier ways. Learn healthy anger management skills to decrease your destructive behavior.

BPD and Sexuality - The Relationship Between BPD and Sexuality
People with BPD can experience a variety of sexual difficulties, including reckless sexual behavior, negative attitudes toward sex, sexual promiscuity, and sexual avoidance. It is likely that the impact of BPD symptoms on sex can vary substantially from person to person, and can take very different forms.

Borderline Personality Disorder and Sex
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) often experience problems with sex. Dissatisfaction with sex, impulsive sexual behavior, promiscuity, and avoidance of sex are not uncommon in BPD.

Manage Anger in Healthier Ways
Many people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) experience anger so intense it is often referred to as "borderline rage . This anger sometimes comes in response to a perceived interpersonal slight -- for example, feeling criticized by a loved one. If you experience this kind of anger, you may have a hard time controlling it. ?Many people with BPD engage in unhealthy behaviors when they …

Legal Problems in BPD - Facing Legal Problems in BPD
Legal problems in BPD are not uncommon -- a very large subgroup of people with BPD will run into legal problems at some point in their lifetime. Have you been in trouble with the law because of your symptoms? What legal problems have you faced, and how are they related to your symptoms?

BPD and the Law - Legal Issues and BPD
Borderline personality disorder, or BPD, is a mental illness that can cause you to have very serious legal issues. Learn more about legal issues and BPD, and how the law can impact people with BPD and their families.

Practice Walking Mindfully
Mindful walking is one way to promote mindfulness skills without having to make time for formal practice. Try this simple exercise to promote mindful walking.

BPD and Work - How Does BPD Affect Your Work - BPD and Work
Some people with BPD are very successful in their work, while others are chronically unemployed or unhappy in their careers. How have your BPD symptoms affected you at work?

BPD and Career Choices - Do Your Symptoms Matter?
BPD often impacts every area of a person's life, including their career. BPD and career success are possible, but here are some things to consider if you have BPD and career questions.

Coping with Music
Using music to cope is quick, relatively easy, and inexpensive. However, there are a few ground rules to follow to ensure that this strategy doesn't backfire.

Your Favorite Songs - What are Your Favorite Songs for Helpin…
Most of us have those "go-to" songs that help us get through tough times. What are your favorite songs to help you cope?

Reduce Stress for Better Emotional Stability
Are you looking for ways to reduce stress and improve your emotional stability if you have borderline personality disorder? Certain stressors in our lives are controllable, and with some planning we can keep these stressors at bay. Here are some tips for reducing controllable stressors.

Reducing Stress - What Are Your Strategies for Reducing Stress
If you have BPD, you've probably noticed that all of your symptoms get worse during times of stress. Do you have strategies you use for reducing stress? What's worked for you? Any advice for those who are struggling with severe stress?

Building a Coping Skills Toolbox
If you are struggling with intense emotions, impulsive behavior, self harm, or suicidality, you need to find ways to cope when your emotions start to take over. Building a coping skills toolbox is a great way to keep yourself from doing something destructive in the heat of the moment.

Building a Coping Skills Toolbox - What Is In Your Coping Ski…
Do you have a list of coping skills that you use when trouble is brewing? What skills are in your coping skills toolbox? How do you make sure you use healthy skills rather than resorting to old, unhealthy habits?

Cope with Your Symptoms Through Expressive Writing
Expressive writing has been shown to have a positive impact on both physical and psychological health in individuals suffering from a variety of conditions, including chronic pain, depression, psychological trauma, cancer, and asthma. It’s no wonder that people have used expressive writing for centuries as a means of personal discovery, catharsis, and meaning-making. If you’ve never tried expressive writing, this is another skill to add to your coping skills toolbox.

Expressive Writing - Share Your Expressive Writing
Share your expressive writing here. Expressive writing has been shown to have a positive impact on both physical and psychological health in individuals suffering from a variety of conditions, including chronic pain, depression, psychological trauma, cancer, and asthma. It’s no wonder that people have used expressive writing for centuries as a...

Abandonment and BPD - Do You Struggle with Abandonment and BPD
Many people with BPD struggle with abandonment sensitivity - the intense fear of others leaving. However, people with BPD also tend to experience more conflict in relationships, which can lead to more break-ups. Do you struggle with abandonment sensitivity? What do you do when you are afraid someone might leave you? Have you found a way to...

Create More Structure - How to Plan Structured Activities
Mental health experts have long known that one of the keys to good psychological health is having more structure in your daily life. But what exactly is structure, and how can you create more of it? Here are some simple steps to create more structure.

Active Problem Solving
Too often we focus on trying to deal with difficult emotions we face in our day-to-day lives. However, it's often more effective to focus on the problem at hand than to focus on trying to control your emotions. Tackling problems head on can help you feel that your life is more manageable and less stressful.

Grounding Exercises
Grounding exercises are helpful for dealing with dissociation, panic, impulsive urges, and intense emotional distress. Learn more about grounding exercises and how they can help you.

Grounding Tools - What Grounding Tools Do You Use
Most people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can benefit from having one or two grounding tools in their coping repertoire. Do you have a particular grounding tool that works for you? When do you know you need to use grounding tools?

Stigma and Borderline Personality Disorder
Learn more about stigma and borderline personality disorder. Why are people with borderline personality disorder stigmatized? How does stigma affect people with BPD? And what can be done to stop stigma?

Stigma and Borderline Personality Disorder
Many people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have experienced the effects of stigma. How has stigma affected you? Have you found ways to effectively fight stigma? What would you like other people to know about the ways that stigma has impacted your life?

Disclosing Your Diagnosis
Have you told others about your borderline personality disorder diagnosis? How did they react? Share your experiences with disclosing your diagnosis.

Distress Tolerance Skills for BPD
Distress tolerance skills training is a core feature of Dialectical Behavior Therapy for borderline personality disorder (BPD). The distress tolerance skills are meant to reduce impulsive behavior, which can often result from an inability to tolerate strong emotions.

Finding Meaning
This is one exercise that is designed to help you identify what is meaningful to you. Of course, finding meaning is not an easy process, and no one exercise will get you there; finding meaning takes work and is best accomplished with the help of a good therapist. In fact, this may be an exercise that you want to work on with your therapist.

How Do You Tolerate Distress - Distress Tolerance Skills for BPD
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) often engage in dangerous impulsive behaviors in an attempt to reduce intense emotional pain. Distress tolerance skills are alternative, healthier behaviors that are meant to delay urges to engage in destructive behavior.

Finding Meaning in Your Life - How Have Yo Found Meaning
Sometimes people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and other psychiatric disorders struggle to find meaning in their lives. How have you found meaning? What can other people with BPD do to create more meaningful lives?

Coping Skills - What Coping Skills Do You Use
What coping skills do you use to manage through tough times? Find a list of coping skills worth trying and add your own.

The Pros and Cons Tool
The pros and cons tool can help you evaluate any decision- whether or not to buy a house, drop out of school, or change jobs. This tool can help you look at a decision from all angles and choose the most effective course.

Understanding Borderline Relationships
Borderline relationships are chaotic; they can feel like a roller coaster of emotion and conflict. Learning to manage these relationships is very difficult, but it is possible for borderline relationships to succeed.

Reduce Your Emotional Instability
If you experience a lot of emotional ups and downs, you may be able to make some simple changes to your lifestyle that will help you get off the roller coaster. Learn skills to reduce your emotional instability and improve your psychological health.

Emotion Regulation Skills Training
Emotion regulation skills training can help you to reduce emotional ups and downs and improve your overall psychological health. Learn more about how emotion regulation skills training can help you, and get tips of skills training exercises to try.

How Accepting Emotions Can Improve Your Emotional Health
Practicing accepting emotions can lead to better emotional health. Learn more about the benefits of accepting emotions.

Sitting Meditation
Sitting meditation can be a powerful way to improve your emotional health. Learn more about how to practice sitting meditation.

Emotional Acceptance Exercise - Observing Your Emotions
Practicing emotional acceptance can lead to greater emotional health and less emotional ups and downs. Learn more about how to practice emotional acceptance.

Suppressing Emotions
Suppressing emotions does not work, and it may even end up causing you to feel worse in the long run. Learn more about why suppressing emotions can get you in trouble.

Managing Holiday Stress
Find ways to manage holiday stress and survive the holiday season. Learn about the sources of holiday stress and learn new ways of coping.

A Borderline Personality Case Example
Read a description of a borderline personality case. A case example of borderline personality disorder.

Mindfulness Meditation: Beginner's Mind
Try this exercise to practice beginner's mind in your mindfulness practice.

Eat Mindfully - An Exercise for Mindful Eating
Try this exercise to cultivate mindful eating.

Self-Care for Borderline Personality Disorder
Good self-care is critical to physical and mental health. Learn more about developing good self care, including diet, sleep, medication, and exercise habits.

Develop a Safety Plan for Mental Health Emergencies
A safety plan is critical if you are have experienced a mental health emergency in the past (e.g., a suicide attempt), or are at risk of one in the future. Learn how to develop a comprehensive safety plan to reduce your risk.

Borderline Personality Disorder in the Internet Age
While the internet has become an important vehicle for education and communication for people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), it may also make life harder for people with BPD. Learn more about how the internet may magnify some symptoms of BPD.

Mindfulness Exercises: Mindful Driving
Mindfulness exercises can help to reduce problems related to automatic or impulsive behaviors. Try this mindfulness exercise: mindful driving.

Mindful Breathing
A simple mindfulness exercise: mindful breathing

Mindfulness Skills for Living with BPD
Mindfulness, or the practice of nonjudgmental awareness of the present moment, can help people with borderline personality disorder reduce emotion dysregulation. Learn more about mindfulness and how it may help reduce the symptoms of BPD.

10 Healthy Coping Skills for Borderline Personality Disorder
When you are having an intense emotion, it can be hard to know what to do. Unfortunately, many people with BPD turn to unhealthy behaviors in an attempt to cope with emotional pain (e.g., self-harm, substance use, or aggression). Want to replace unhealthy habits with new, healthier skills? Try some of the coping skills listed below.

Coping with the Symptoms Of BPD
Learn new, healthier coping skills to help you manage the symptoms of BPD.

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder
The symptoms of BPD can affect every part of your life, making relationships, work, and health very difficult to maintain. However, despite the suffering that BPD can cause, many people learn ways to cope the symptoms and lead normal, fulfilling lives.

Borderline Personality Disorder and Physical Health
Unfortunately, BPD is associated with some serious physical health conditions, including chronic pain disorders, arthritis, obesity, and diabetes. BPD is also associated with less healthy lifestyle choices. Learn more about the relationship between BPD and physical health, and what you can do to improve your health now.

Getting Quality Sleep: Tips for Good Sleep Hygiene
Have you noticed that you are more likely to have strong emotional responses when you are tired? One key to good emotion regulation is getting good sleep. Sleep hygiene, or the practice of establishing good sleep habits, can help.

How to Practice Deep Breathing for Stress Relief
In times of stress or emotional turmoil, deep breathing can provide relief. Follow these steps for a quick way to reduce tension, from About.com's Guide to Stress Management, Elizabeth Scott.

Progressive Muscle Relaxation for Tension Reduction
Progressive Muscle Relaxation (or PMR) is a great exercise for reducing tension and teaching your body how to let go and relax. Learn the steps of PMR from your About.com guide to stress management, Elizabeth Scott.

Psychological Trauma and Physical Health
Learn more about the relationship between psychological trauma and physical health from the National Center for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder.

How to Relax - Readers Share Ideas About How to Relax
It isn't easy to just "let go" and learn how to relax. If it was easy, we'd all be doing it! But the truth is, learning how to relax is a skill that takes practice. Read more about how to relax through exercises and other activities.

How to Practice Deep Breathing
There is a real reason that people tell you to take a deep breath when you're upset. The way we breathe gives direct feedback to our nervous system.

Poetry & Prose - Writing About BPD
Many people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) find the experience of writing therapeutic. Read a collection of expressive writing about BPD, and share your own!See submissions

Finding Support - Advice About Finding Support in a Crisis
We know that social support is one of the most important predictors of mental health and wellness. But finding support is not always easy. Find and share advice about finding support in a crisis.

Build Self Esteem
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) often struggle with low self esteem. But there are ways that you can build self esteem by engaging in a few simple tasks. The key is to engage in these self esteem builders repeatedly -- try to do one each day. It does take time to build self esteem, but if you work hard over several months, you will probably notice an improvement in the way you …

Learning to Identify Emotions
The ability to identify emotions (to know what you are feeling, and why you are having that feeling) is a key aspect of good emotion regulation. Learn why some people struggle to identify emotions and how to practice identifying emotions.

Identifying Emotions - Advice About Identifying Emotions
Many people struggle with identifying emotions - they may feel that their emotions are confusing, or vague, or sometimes may just feel numb. Get advice about how to identify what you are feeling and why.

How to Improve Self Esteem - Ways to Improve Self Esteem
Want some ideas about simple things you can do every day to improve self esteem? Here are some skills that will help boost your self esteem if you practice them daily.

Four Strategies for Coping With Triggers

Most people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have BPD triggers, that is, particular events or situations that exacerbate or intensify their symptoms. Triggers can lead to intense fear and anger, impulsive behavior, self-harm, and even suicidality. What are some strategies for coping with triggers?

Is Avoiding Triggers a Good Idea?
You've figured out what triggers your symptoms, but is avoiding triggers a good idea? Here are some things to consider about avoiding triggers.

Coping with Shame
Coping with shame can be very difficult; intense, chronic, and pervasive shame can destroy relationships, lead to high risk behaviors such as deliberate self-harm, and may make life seem painful and overwhelming. But, there is evidence that this practice can help you cope with shameful feelings.

Managing Holiday Stress - Advice From Readers on Managing Holiday Stress
The holiday season has the potential to be the most stressful time of the year. The extra tasks, financial burden, and social stressors can be a recipe for a real crisis. Here are some tips for managing holiday stress.

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