The symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) can cause a person to have difficulty following through with life plans and goals. A person with BPD may enroll in classes every fall full of good intentions, only to stop going to class or doing the work well before the semester ends.
The BP may be just as baffled as her friends and family by her lack of success in completing the school term. "She is intelligent, capable, and was really looking forward to the start of classes." "She was doing well in class and clearly understood the material."
While the BP may start off doing well, things may take a turn:
- She seems to suddenly lose interest.
- She becomes overwhelmed by the possibility that he would not be successful, and becomes paralyzed by anxiety.
- She feels that teachers and classmates do not like her or want her in class, making it unbearable for her to continue.
There are many possible causes for a person with borderline personality disorder to have difficulty succeeding in educational pursuits. BPD symptoms -- such as lack of a cohesive sense of self, impulsive self-destructive behaviors, intense unstable relationships, and fears of abandonment -- are possible contributors, as well as symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Whatever the cause, interest in studies can suddenly wane once the course work or instructors fail to immediately gratify the BP student. Quitting, whether on purpose or by default, can seem like the only option.
After an unsuccessful term, a BP may plan to jump into a rigorous class load, possibly registering for as many classes as possible for the next term. The BP may hope to complete the coursework as quickly as possible to catch up.
Planning for Success
It is important to plan realistically. This focus on “hurrying up and finishing” can set anyone up for failure. Creating a realistic plan can increase the possibility of success.
Instead of taking as many classes as possible, register for one or possibly two classes that are not too rigorous. Part time attendance still moves you towards your goal, and you can always increase your load in later school terms.
Focus on creating a supportive living environment that will help you be successful in classes. Planning to move somewhere new, or into a dorm with strangers, can create added tension that can threaten even your most carefully made plans. Even though it may not be your ideal, staying in your current living environment may increase the likelihood of success.
Keep everything in perspective. Decisions that you make to be successful one term can be reevaluated each subsequent term. It is better to plan to take something slowly and in the safest and most secure manner, rather than risking a repeat of not succeeding.
Discuss your plan with someone that you trust, like your therapist. A therapist wants you succeed and can identify potential problem areas with your plan, increasing the likelihood of success. Together, you can work through any negative feelings related to the plan, address time management issues, and remain focused on your ultimate goal.
